tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post5257759063231416993..comments2023-05-22T06:04:12.917-04:00Comments on Kaleidoscope Muff: Body or MindMuffiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-68173363189566229482015-07-22T10:24:37.348-04:002015-07-22T10:24:37.348-04:00Sometimes movies don't live up to the book. Si...Sometimes movies don't live up to the book. Since reading this one affected me so much, I'm not sure if I'll see the movie or not.Muffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-73182516743558889522015-07-22T10:23:05.379-04:002015-07-22T10:23:05.379-04:00What a poignant anecdote. I'm sure that simply...What a poignant anecdote. I'm sure that simply by listening and sharing your own experiences, you are helping the couple come to terms with their own trouble. I find it interesting that many times, it's the family that has a harder time accepting an illness than it is for the patient. I'm glad this couple chose you to advise them. You have such compassion and empathy, and I'm sure your advice will be of value.Muffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-71959279310775691932015-07-22T10:17:57.920-04:002015-07-22T10:17:57.920-04:00I totally understand! There were times when I want...I totally understand! There were times when I wanted to stop reading because I started to get so sad. I'm glad I finished it, though, because at the end, I felt there was still hope left within her family.Muffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-43659081428848482812015-07-21T20:11:06.874-04:002015-07-21T20:11:06.874-04:00I read the book quite some time ago but have not s...I read the book quite some time ago but have not seen the movie yet. I recognized stages of my own mother's decline with dementia as well. I did like the book.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-89005381470596141212015-07-21T14:38:05.589-04:002015-07-21T14:38:05.589-04:00I just had lunch with a dear friend who is in the ...I just had lunch with a dear friend who is in the early stages of dementia. Her husband now has to drive her to the restaurant. I am witnessing firsthand the decline of her intelligence. And, get this. Her husband is looking to me to help him understand how to cope with such a devastating disease since, after all, I have managed to cope so well with my own debilitating disease. :)<br /> <br />He has a hard time understanding, for example, why his wife can't cope with her decline better. I imagine there is some transference there. <br /><br />After talking with me, though, he has at least been open to the concept that, in a progressive disease, one doesn't just move on beyond the early stages of grief to achieve finally a stable acceptance. That the stages of grieving begin anew with each new loss. And one of the things that seemed to connect with him was my honesty about the fact that on some days I do better in my coping than I do on other days. That will be clear from my poem tomorrow<br /><br />So our lunches have become a sort of group therapy for this married couple in which I am the therapist! They are, by the way, seeing a real therapist, but the husband in particular seems to respond to my insights more readily than he does their therapist. <br /><br />It is an ironic position for me to be in. But, perhaps in my becoming the wounded healer, Life is presenting me with an important mission. It is not one I sought or accept comfortably. But, here I am. It turns out that sharing what I have learned on my own healing journey helps others. Who knew?<br />Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141627284221873201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853678040614096966.post-25255984618313421262015-07-21T12:38:10.621-04:002015-07-21T12:38:10.621-04:00i saw the movie....and had a love/hate relationshi...i saw the movie....and had a love/hate relationship with it. it was a great movie but it impacted me in such a negative way, as i too, see my future as related to MS!!!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16823369215793154260noreply@blogger.com