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Monday, January 14, 2013

My Own World of Fashion



I know I’ve mentioned before that prior to being disabled, I loved fashions. When I worked, I could afford to shop for clothes that I loved. That doesn’t mean that I always adhered to the current trends, though. Rather, I pretty much stayed with classic styles. A well-made jacket or blazer could accompany various slacks or skirts. My closets were organized by type of clothing, and yes, sometimes by color. Even though many teachers had abandoned the professional outfits in favor of more relaxed and casual styles, I preferred looking like a person who fit their role. True, if I had taught younger children, I may have succumbed to clothes that allowed me to get down and dirty. However, as an upper-grade teacher, I liked dressing in more business-like attire. My first principal told me that I looked as if I just stepped out of a band box. At the time, I wasn’t sure if that was a positive, so I checked and sure enough, she was commending me on how I dressed. That’s all it took to make me continue, and I went about dressing up for work. The next principal asked me to encourage others to dress more professionally, but I refused. That was her job since she said that many of them looked as if they were off to do farm chores. Through the years, and the many principals I encountered, I always tried to look my best in whatever I wore.

As a principal, I was always “on display,” so I wore many suits and at times, I wore heels for the entire day. Once, another principal came to my school for a mini-meeting concerning a conference. In my office, she asked if I always dressed that way, and when I told her I did, she said that maybe she needed to review her daily wearing of slacks and a sweater. The thing is, I just felt more professional and in charge when I dressed nicely. Except for informal meetings, dress down days, or field events I never wore what I called a “sporty look.”

It amazed me how quickly I changed that attitude once I went away from the workforce. Almost immediately, I began to wear jeans or sweats every day. Much of it was due to my depression, I know, but it also showed me how much I enjoyed my job! I evened things out by wearing nicer slacks and better sweaters when I went to visit my mother or when I attended meetings. I always went back to my suits and blazers for church each Sunday, and I felt good about myself.

Now, I have difficulty getting into (and out of) my clothes, so I just wear what I’m able to dress in easily. I haven’t worn a blazer or jacket in quite some time – and forget about high heels. Since I still go to see mother nearly every day, I wear nice sweaters. On Sundays, I just wear the same and put a coat over it. My buttoned, zippered, or hooked slacks remain in the closet, and I wear the same easy pull-on ones all the time. I need new things – after all this time, my duds are wearing out – but I hate spending money on me.  I read in another blog that the author goes “Goodwill hunting” this time of year because she can always find nice things at dirt cheap prices. I’m thinking about doing the same. If someone I knew from a former life happens to see me, so what. That’s my attitude now, and I won’t care. No more high-end department stores or cute little boutiques for me; now it’s simply a matter of necessity. Thrift stores, here I come!

Peace,
Muff


14 comments:

Gail said...

HI MUFF - I am so amazed at how alike we are. I loved dressing like a hippie, still do although around the house i like my pajama jeans and loose tops. You are way cool, - way cool....
Love Gail
peace......

Karen said...

Comfort dictates my fashion choices these days!

Judy at Peace Be With You said...

I did not know what that band-aid expression meant either! The explanation seems counter-intuitive to me. Anyway, that was not the real point of your post. My attire, too, has changed. Living in Florida, I mostly wear tee shirts abd slacks/shorts. I am increasingly challenged, though, by "dress-up" occasions. Though I always have tended toward a classic look, I have a feeling my classic is starting to look, well, just old. As for "Goodwill," I have taken advantage of my proximity to Palm Beach and found some great cast-offs in, for example, the Hospice resale shop nearby. But, mostly, since walking is difficult, I take advantage of sales on the internet. I haven't been to a real clothing store in years.

Judy at Peace Be With You said...

Ugh, I told myself to proofread and then didn't do it. I meant to say tee shirts and slacks/shorts. You probably figured that out on your own, but I tend to be somewhat compulsive about my writing being correct.

Judy at Peace Be With You said...

... and I meant obsessive. It's not a good day for the brain.

My Odd Sock said...

I am not a fashion diva. More of a fashion dud.

The easier to wear clothes do make thing easier---but it still feels pretty good to to get gussied-up once in a while!

Olga said...

I have a casual life style and a wardrobe to match. Still, I do like my clothes to be clean and to fit well. I can find things in Florida thrift shops, but never in VT. Vermonters wear things out before getting rid of them.

Muffy's Marks said...

I love retirement, I can dress anyway that suits me. When I retired I dumped most of my suits and professional work clothes. I saved a few good slacks and jackets for those 'just in case' times.

Webster said...

I have never had much luck with Goodwill hunting. My guilty pleasure is Land's End catalog, especially the one I get in the mail, but on-line is okay, too. I wait until the end of the season when they have sales, and no minimum purchase free shipping. I know what will fit, and if it doesn't I can return it for free at the local Sears. Also, I love their Sport Knit Pant. "Like sweats, only better." They look nice and wear well. Even they went on sale (just a wee bit off); they cost $30 a pair, though. I also like their cords which pull on as well. Both look good with a turtleneck and a sweater.

I have gotten rid of so many clothes over the years that are not worth the aggravation of putting on. And I have two working arms! Just numb fingers.

Do I miss getting dressed for work? Pantyhose and heels? Not so much.

Robert Parker said...

I'm quite happy about not needing to wear Grownup Clothes any more. Of course, winter being winter, I've moved back to my turtleneck-after-turtleneck look (which I used to wear a lot when I was working in the school theater, black is de rigeur, when you're a techie), but I'm looking forward to going back to my College Look of wacky T-shirts. Which I used to have quite a collection of, before I had to move back to Grownup Clothes. Actually, I'm strongly considering taking some stuff myself to the Goodwill, "team shirts" from a former employer that I think it's time for me to say farewell to, because said employer and me have said farewell to each other (in other than "haberdashery" circles). But I am keeping my kurta and other Indian formal wear... when you're wearing thirty-five feet of gold and silver embroidery, nobody will tell you you're under-dressed... and drawstring pants! Gotta love those!

Muffie said...

Gail, I guess we ARE alike!

Karen, yes, I think I'm the same.

Judy, 1. I understood everything -- where does THAT put us??
2. I, too, live near upscale areas, and I may check out their thrift shops.
3. btw -- the way it was explained to me -- a 'band box' was a place where men in Victorian times kept their celluloid collars (called collar bands.) When the bands came out of the box, they looked neat and clean.

Doug, I do like to be dressed up, but it takes sooo much time and effort.

Olga, I guess Vermonters really like their duds!

Muffy, I think I'll be doing the same shortly!

Webster, totally agree about the pantyhose and heels. Lands End has good sturdy outfits -- I do have several of them.

Robert, Wow -- I'd like to see pix of those ceremonial robes!

Peace,
Muff

Judy at Peace Be With You said...

See, I told you my brain wasn't working. You wrote band box. I read band-aid box. Grrrr.

Ami said...

Shoes and undergarments are about the only clothing items I do not buy at Goodwill. I once found a 400 dollar coat for my hubby for $49.99. Brand new.

The trick for me at least is to go often.

And of course I spend very little time worrying about what people think of me now, but as a younger me, I was embarrassed at the idea of shopping at thrift stores.

Far Side of Fifty said...

I am casual..I like it that way. At the Museum they are not particular..slacks and a shirt..in the summer capris and a shirt. I usually keep a good looking jacket in my office that I can whip on if the press comes by:)